By Karolina Pawinska MA.CPP, UKCP Accredited

It seems like only a few days ago the Autumn leaves were still dancing in the air. Today, as I went for a walk, most of the trees were bare and the ground was covered with a blanket of leaves over the mud. The change is visible and inescapable…

At present we are exposed to rapid change as we meet the challenge of a global pandemic, along with other unknowns… How will our economy recover from the current stresses? How will climate change and global warming affect us and the planet? How will we meet Christmas this year, to name but a few? As I am naming it, I feel the effect of it on my body and posture, my shoulders rounding under the weight to protect my heart space. There is a lot we are negotiating at present on an everyday basis. In these circumstances it can take extra effort and attention to calm our nervous system and to stay grounded, present and resourced; the qualities so needed to meet our life as it unfolds with flexibility and ability to adapt.  

As life presents us with challenges, we might experience overwhelm that disconnects us from our bodies. Grounding and centring can support us to reconnect directly with the resources naturally available in our own body. How can we do it? The recipe is not complicated but requires us in the first place to witness when its needed and practice mindfully returning to our connection to the ground. It could be simply standing and tuning into the physical sensations of the connection with the ground, feeling one’s feet on the Earth.  It could be sitting on the chair with our feet touching the ground, hands on the belly and feeling the energy moving up from the ground through your feet and legs into your belly. If you like walking, it could be mindful walking, feeling each step touching the Earth. Another way to help grounding yourself is to spend time with animals if it is possible, watching them or cuddling them. They are naturally grounded.

We all have moments when life is too much, when we feel lost or overwhelmed in the matrix of what we are faced with. Its not about removing it from our experience but increasing our resilience of how quickly we are able to bounce back to life, to return home.

I have been reading with my children a beautiful book for all ages called ‘The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse’ by Charlie Mackesy. Each page is filled with heart-warming, wise statements. On one I read:

“Sometimes I feel lost”, said the boy.

Me too”, said the mole, “but we love you, and love brings you home”.

Everybody has resources. It can be anyone or anything that supports and nurtures our sense of physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. The word re-source; indicate returning, coming back to our source, our origins… over and over again. Consider what are your resources, are they hidden or obvious? Are they internal or external? What supported you so far in life while going through challenges? You might be aware of external resources like: nature, friends, family, animals, dance, art, sport… or internal resources, like: strength, a spiritual practice, talents, being kind, being resilient… Something embedded in everyday life, taken for granted, can be very resourceful, like a cup of tea or taking a bath. We need different resources at different times. I would like to invite you to reflect on what supports your life. When you reach out to some resource, for example: a cup of tea, why don’t you notice your inner experience that accompanies that external resource? It might be warmth in your body, restfulness, slowing down… We can with time connect with the inner repertoire of sensations, feelings and energies that correspond with our wellbeing and learn how to turn towards it to support ourselves in the midst of life’s surprises and challenges.

I wish you a resourceful Advent time and Christmas.

Karolina Pawinska

Resourcing your life